A Different Perspective on Locktober: Perhaps a Constructive Take on the Popular Sissy Trend

I became aware of Locktober some time ago when I started embracing my feminine side. I guess a lot of us who get involved in crossdressing and sissy kink-related things can be curious about different ways of playing or getting into a more submissive mindset. Locktober has become a fairly popular trend among sissies seeking an extreme challenge. Wearing a chastity cage non-stop for 31 days is quite a challenge, I think. If you’ve ever experimented with wearing a cage, you’re probably aware it can be an enlightening, if intense experience.

I was curious to try Locktober in some form, but 31 days non-stop isn’t something just anyone can do; we all have obligations in life to fulfill, and sometimes it can be inappropriate or uncomfortable to bring elements of our girls’ sides along. It might just be too intense for some of us; maybe the idea of handing over control to someone else isn’t your thing. I’ve been trying my own version of Locktober with a different outlook than the popular trend. I’ve been trying to use Locktober as a way to challenge myself without fear and perhaps even experience some personal growth.

Setting Expectations & Goals

I began thinking about taking the Locktober challenge for a while, but I knew I couldn’t do the most extreme version. Also, I try to keep my feminine side private and set boundaries to stay safe. In the end, I decided to try and use Locktober as an opportunity to explore and maybe correct some bad habits; more personal growth than explicit spicy playtime. When I had tried chastity in the past, either for a few hours or a day, I had been surprised at how it had given me a bit of mental calm and a different sort of excitement than I was used to. It had also regulated my desires to dress up and be feminine. The peaks and valleys of the desire to engage with femininity felt less extreme in chastity. I thought that exploiting this feeling would be the best real-life application of Locktober.

The best place to start is what I expected to be able to do. Firstly, one of my boundaries is a thick line between my girl self and my professional life. I’m sure there are many of us who work in occupations that, if discovered, would cause significant problems. I didn’t feel comfortable engaging in this play during work time, and also didn’t want to deal with any awkward practical issues when wearing a cage. I also didn’t want to put myself into situations where I could get caught off guard and be unable to handle something. So, I couldn’t expect to be locked up all the time, but I committed to evenings and weekends, with reasonable breaks for cleaning and such.

I set myself three goals for the month. The first being to stay committed to my idea of locking up when I planned to. Sticking to routines and plans is something I struggle with, and I was hoping that my girly interests would drive me to keep this one. Going along with this was to set a list of little things to do when home in locked girl mode; some chores, as well as some girly exercise time. Routine building was the first goal. 

The other two involved breaking bad habits: a growing level of screen time and online dependency, and a tendency to eat junk food. As I’m sure we all have noticed, we’re all glued to our phones more and more. I felt my screen time creeping up and up, spending hours scrolling social media or searching for a quick dopamine hit. I’d also been getting lazy with my diet. In the moments I’d tried chastity before, the feeling of calm I’d experienced made impulse control and the need for short-term satisfaction more manageable. These seemed like reasonable goals to me, and also might have positive results beyond the obvious feminine rush chastity can provide.

Living with My New Routine and Some Progress

On the morning of October 1st, I woke up knowing that when I got home from my day, it would be time to try my experiment. To be honest, after a long day at work, I wasn’t sure I wanted to, and my usual routine of zoning out in front of a screen was very appealing. However, I stayed committed and spent my first evening as I had planned. Each evening got a bit easier to remember, and by the third day, I was looking forward to getting home and getting into a girly mindset by locking up. At the end of week 1 of my new routine, locking up when getting home was a great way to leave the stressful workday behind and reset in a more positive mindset for the evening. Once there, things that seemed overwhelming a moment before took a lot less mental effort.

Just cause of the more optimistic mindset in the evenings, things like cooking a light dinner or doing some light exercise to break my bad habits were also much easier. Being caged also adds a bit of feminine motivation to be a bit healthier and active. Because being caged can up the level of my feminine mindset, eating fatty junk food wasn’t super appealing. It would be nice to lose the little bit of love handles around my waist; if I did, I could look amazing in leggings, or perhaps that new dress would fit a bit better. And a bit of girly exercise in front of the mirror was just a nice way to enjoy myself. And finally, the worst of my screen time tendencies has gone down a lot, after all, if short-term satisfaction isn’t an option, less motivated to seek it out for hours online.

Results and Continued Progress

I guess it’s been about halfway through Locktober now, and I can report that I’ve been able to mostly stick to my plans. I think around day 10 was when I realized I hadn’t searched for naughty content online for a while. My phone screen time calculator also showed a drop in screen time from the previous week. Not a huge drop, but a good deal less. And while not every meal I’ve been eating has been healthy, I’ve not been snacking on junk throughout the day.

At the end of the second weekend of Locktober, I’m looking around my living space and also noticing an environment that’s a bit cleaner, a bit more orderly. I don’t feel as if I’ve missed out on anything by not engaging with my bad habits. Generally, it feels good.

I’m beginning to reflect on why being caged can have such a huge effect on someone’s thoughts and mindset. As someone who has been doing this alone, and just for my own satisfaction, making the conscious choice to disconnect from my normal routines and tendencies by locking up has been positive.

Conclusion

There is so much chatter about Locktober online at the moment, and it’s mostly explicit and sexual. I wanted to think about it in a different way and perhaps manipulate it for my own ends.

Crossdressing isn’t only a sexual thrill for many of us; it’s a lifestyle or a hobby that’s a part of ourselves. I didn’t want to make locking my male anatomy to amplify a femme mindset to be automatically sexual. While these elements are enjoyable, I’ve found that the click of the lock and the instant role change that it brings on can bring on a mindset where I feel a bit more sober, more calm, and maybe more able to tackle some personal tendencies that bothered me.

I can understand how many people would not be able to see what I am getting at. Perhaps just that sometimes, there might be some personal issues that are difficult for us to confront and deal with. I’d never considered trying to use my femme side as a way to make an impact on my greater self. Hopefully, these next few weeks will continue to be positive.

Wishing all you girls out there a happy Locktober, happy playtime, and most importantly, happy and healthy lives!