Secret Sissy Living: How to Build a Safe Sissy Routine When You’re Not Out Yet

If you’re like me, you probably started crossdressing in your teens, and when you were living with your parents or guardians. I remember when I was 15, I would wake up super early and wait until my mom left so that I could wear her dress and high heels and clean the entire house.

It was my dirty little secret, and she’d come back home complimenting me for my good job without knowing I did all that in her clothes. Either way, it made me feel great, and the desire to step into my feminine energy only intensified.

However, when the pandemic hit and we were stuck indoors together, I knew I had to create a secret sissy routine for my sanity. So if you live with family, friends, or some roommates, this guide is for you so that you can live your sissy dreams safely and secretly.

Are you excited yet? Let’s start by understanding why you even need a secret sissy routine.

Why You Need a Secret Sissy Routine

You might be wondering why you need to keep your sissy lifestyle a secret, but I always say that it’s better to be safe than sorry. The truth is, not everyone is open-minded, even the most loving and supportive family members might turn against you if they found out that you are a sissy.

That’s why I’d advise you to take your time and test the waters with them before fully coming out. But how can you do this?

By bringing up LGBTQ+ topics and seeing how they respond.

In the meantime, your life must go on, and you need to be true to yourself. So use these 7 steps to build your secret sissy routine and unleash your inner goddess.

1. Find Some Private Time to Explore Your Femininity

The first thing you need to do is carve out some private time so that you can fully immerse yourself and unlock your sissy desires. This can be between 30 minutes and 2 hours a day, but it all depends on how much free time you have.

If you live with family or roommates, try to learn their habits and routines. What time do they leave the house? What time do they go to bed? Are they early birds or night owls? After learning all this, create your sissy time with this knowledge.

However, if you live with people who work from home and rarely leave the house, then your next best option is to tell them that you need ‘me’ time. You can say that you’re taking a nap and don’t want to be disturbed, then lock your door for privacy.

Don’t make the mistake of saying that you have a headache or you’re not feeling well unless you want them to check on you every 10 minutes.

Once you have some privacy, set the mood with scented candles, dim, romantic lights, and soft music. If you’ve never had a sissygasm before, this is the best time to put on your chastity cage and listen to sissy hypno videos until you get there.

2. Secretly Learn Your Sissy Wardrobe Style

The next thing you need to do is learn your sissy fashion style. If you’re a complete beginner, I wouldn’t advise you to dive right in and start buying clothes.

Take your time to explore and figure out what looks great on your body shape before spending hundreds of dollars.

You can do this by getting hand-me-downs from close female friends who won’t judge or discriminate against you.

If you don’t have a close girlfriend, there’s no harm in trying out your sister’s or mum’s clothes. Just make sure you put them back before they find out that they are missing.

Try different styles like mini-dresses, off-shoulder tops, flair skirts, tight jeans, and baggy pants, and see what flatters your body and looks great on you.

3. Order Your Sissy Clothes Without Anyone Knowing

Once you have an idea of what you like, then it’s time to order some sissy clothes of your own. This part is a bit tricky because if you haven’t come out yet, the last thing you want is to bump into someone you know when you’re in a thrift store trying on a dress.

So, instead of wearing an oversized hoodie and a mask to cover your face when you’re out shopping, how about you ditch all that and just buy your clothes online?

I mostly get my clothes from Amazon since they have some nice quality pieces. Plus, I like that you can pay using PayPal, so you don’t have to use your credit card, meaning it won’t show on your credit card’s history.

After placing your order, ship your clothes to a friend who can pick them up for you, or use an Amazon locker that’s also super discreet.

Another great place to buy your sissy clothes is from LGBTQ+ communities that offer discreet packaging like Roanyer. It’s a great place to buy sissy essentials like breast forms and hip pants.

4. Ditch the Gym and Do Home Feminization Workouts

I remember how excited I was the first time I bought a bright red mini-dress. I couldn’t wait for my package to come, and once it did, I quickly put it on and stood in the mirror to admire myself. But once I turned around and looked at my butt in the mirror, my smile faded.

I was as flat as a rock, and I didn’t look anywhere close to the model wearing the dress from the website. So, I vowed never to feel like that, and I started doing my feminizing workouts.

For some of us, the world would practically end if one of our friends or family saw us wearing a pink workout set and doing squats in the gym. And it’s not because it’s wrong or we’ll feel guilty (heck no) but just because we’re not yet ready to come out. So, to avoid this awkwardness, the best option is to do your sissy feminization workouts at home.

If you don’t know where to start and you’d like to get that perky butt and wide hips, try these 3 home workouts:

Fire Hydrant: You can tell just from the name that this workout is going to absolutely burn your hips. It’s the perfect workout to widen them and give you an hourglass figure. To do them, get down on your hands and knees and then lift one leg to the side at around 90°, squeeze your butt, then lower slowly. 3 sets of 10-15 reps per side is enough for one day.

Glute Bridge: If your butt is as flat as mine was, glute bridges will help shape it to be rounder. To do this workout, lie on your back with your knees bent and your arms at your side. Then lift your hips and squeeze your butt as much as you can for 3-5 seconds, and lower yourself down. You can do as many as 20-50 reps.

Donkey Kicks: This workout focuses on your glutes to give you a bubble butt that would look great in tight dresses. To do them, get on all fours and just like fire hydrants, lift one leg at 90°, then kick your leg up and squeeze your butt before lowering your leg. You can do 3 sets of 10 reps per side each day.

5. Add Subtle Feminine Touches That No One Will Notice

You know that feeling when you’re wearing sexy pink lingerie under your clothes and no one else knows except you? Well, it’s time to crank it up a little bit and add more subtle feminine things to your routine.

Some great places to start are:

• Painting your toes a sexy red or pink color, but staying with socks on in the house
• Shaving all your body hair and being as smooth as a baby
• Wearing a soft pink lip gloss that’s barely visible
• Wearing a light but feminine scent like vanilla

This can be your little secret so that you can keep embracing your sissy side without anyone else noticing. Once you feel safe enough to come out to your friends and family, you can do it openly.

6. Create Your Secret Sissy Persona

If you’re planning on coming out as a sissy and you even want to go to an LGBTQ+ friendly bar, then use this time to create your sissy persona.

Basically, your sissy persona is like your alter-ego. It’s that ultra-feminine goddess in you who is in touch with her body and her feminine energy.

To create your sissy persona, start by picking out a name that you like. If you love watching drag, you can use the name of your favorite drag queen. Another great idea is to use the name of a famous actress that you’ve always admired.

Next, figure out how you want your sissy persona to act. Is she cute and demure? Or sassy and fierce?

The last thing you need to do is figure out your color palette based on your skin tone. Do you look great in warm colors like bright red and bright pink, or more cool colors like baby blue and baby pink?

Then assemble each of these parts together like a beautiful puzzle, and voila! You have your perfect sissy personality.

7. Join Secret Sissy Societies and Communities

The last way you can build a safe sissy routine is to join online sissy societies and communities. These communities are a great place for you to learn from fellow sissies, ask questions, and share your experiences.

One of my favorite ones is R/Sissies on Reddit. I like it because you don’t have to sign up with your real name, so you can ask the most unhinged questions without the fear that someone you know will find your account. Plus, no one’s gonna judge you over there since we’re all going through similar things.

Conclusion

That’s it, love. I hope you liked this article and learned a few tricks on how to safely build a sissy routine until you’re ready to share it with the people you love.

Remember to continue being true to yourself and never to dim the light inside you. Stay sexy and stay safe. Cheers!