How to Relax as a Girl: Crossdressers Recreational Activities
As a crossdresser, I have to admit that it’s easy to get overwhelmed and undecided about recreational activities to do in our free time. Sometimes we just don’t know what to do, and in others, we have just too many options. Another common issue is to be afraid to engage in such activities while crossdressing, as lack of confidence can be a problem. To be fair, I rarely go outside nowadays, and I have very little time to dress up, but when I do, I want to get the most of it. When I dress up as a girl, I carefully plan what I want to do, in order to improve my experience and maximize my enjoyment. After all, what’s the point of crossdressing if we ain’t enjoying it?
If you are going through this kind of situation, and need some advice on how to decide what to do in your leisure time as a crossdresser, I’ll be able to help you. From photoshoots to costume parties and even clubs, each one has its own pros and cons. Each one is better suited for specific situations. You may find that it varies according to your taste, and how extroverted or introverted you are, so you may choose one based on your personality. The better activities are those that make you feel happy and comfortable, allowing you to enjoy them the most, so the best way to tell is to try out some of them.
In order to help you with that, I’ll talk about the pros and cons of a variety of activities, so you can decide based on my descriptions. I’ll give as much detail as possible, which shall be enough for you to have an idea of how things work, and how much you may enjoy them. With that in mind, keep reading and get to know how to relax as a girl!
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Photoshoots are in general a good way for the more introverted crossdressers to enjoy their time. It’s a very rewarding activity, and quite relaxing as well. I like to do that mainly because of how I feel when I look at the results. It’s great to try out different outfits and poses, and that gives you an overview of how you look and how well you pass. It’s also useful to determine your best angle if you want a profile picture or something like that.
What I mean is that such activity is rather calm and enjoyable, and could be even better if you have a friend to take the pictures for you. This way they can share their opinion and give you some advice, improving even more your pictures! Being easy and not requiring you to go out are advantages of this activity. It better fits the daily lives of shy and introverted crossdressers. I highly recommend you read this article which will tell you 10 tricks to look best in your crossdressing photos.
The disadvantage is that it limits your expression and interaction. It compromises your social experience. This can be dealt with, however, due to the existence of social media. Posting the pictures you took is great to get some social interaction. This way, the more extroverted can also enjoy this kind of activity. But be careful if you choose to do that since you won’t have much control of who sees your pictures, and where they can end up. If you’re a more social person, but privacy is a concern to you, I recommend you try another method. This is only the first one that came to my mind.
2. Stream games
If you are part of the crossdressing community, you may have noticed that a considerable amount of crossdressers are also gamers. If that’s your case, I have wonderful news to tell you! You might be familiar with the idea of streaming a game you are playing. But you can do that while crossdressing, and share your experience with friends or other crossdressers online.
If you choose to do so, you’ll notice that being seen as a girl playing a video game is quite awesome, and people will actually watch and interact with you. Another advantage is that you can play anything that pleases you, not just those trendy games out there. When you think about it, you’ll notice that you’ll be doing two things you like at the same time. Also, you’ll be helping to bring more representation to other crossdressers. If you want some more advice or inspiration, check out “F1nn5terLIVE” on youtube, a famous crossdressing streamer.
The only downside I can think of is the occasional haters and trolls you may find. They enjoy making people feel bad and are everywhere on the internet. My best advice is to ignore them, as all they want is attention and to make people visibly mad at them. If you think they are too much for you to handle, that’s okay, as you can still try any other activity.
3. Costume parties
For those people in search of more social experiences and interaction with other people, one of the best things to do is to go to a costume party. There, you’ll be able to have a lot of fun with other people in a more relaxing situation. You won’t have to worry too much about passing or sounding like a girl. This is great if you want to have a good time while dressing up in your favorite clothes. Or if you’d like to meet new people and crossdress at the same time, free of judgment.
It allows you to feel free and to be yourself, or even to cosplay if you are into it. I must also add that we are fairly close to Halloween, so it’s a good time to try out this option, as costume parties are quite trendy during this time of the year. The main advantage, as I said before, is the free and relaxing nature of this kind of activity. Here is an article that I wrote on how to enjoy and celebrate Halloween as a crossdresser. The disadvantage, on the other hand, is the fact that costume parties aren’t so common during the majority of the year. Therefore, this may not be your everyday choice for leisure hours.
4. Night clubs
They are rather common worldwide, and some of them are frequented by the LGBT public, including crossdressers and trans people. In other words, it’s a place where you’ll find acceptance and opportunities to socialize and meet up with new people. If you want to use your free time to make new friends, this is the ideal activity for you. However, consider doing some research on the nightclubs in your region, so you can find out which one is more likely to welcome crossdressers.
The importance of passing is relative and depends both on you and the environment of each club. Some of them are more welcoming to crossdressers that don’t pass and nonbinary people in general. Those tend to offer a more relaxing experience free of judgment. This is the kind of place you should go to, but if you have enough confidence you can go to any club you want. Keep in mind that in that case, the better you pass, the more relaxing it will be.
The main advantage is the opportunity to enjoy the outside world and better express yourself around other people. And you can do that in an easy and cheap way. This is viable for most occasions, with the only disadvantage being the time. What I mean is that nightclubs are better suited for crossdressers whose leisure time is at night. Otherwise, it can affect your sleep schedule in a negative way, and be the opposite of relaxing.
5. Going out for a walk
If you have your free time during the day, you can dress up in your female attire and go out for a walk. I love to do that in the morning, or a few hours after lunch, so I can enjoy a bit of sunlight and observe my surroundings. Doing that can not only help you build up confidence and enhance your self-esteem but also help you to keep your shape. You may even acquire an hourglass figure by thinning your waist. Listening to music can make this activity even more relaxing, and reduce daily stress and anxiety.
What’s good about this option is that it’s healthy, costless and practical, but it does have a few downsides. One of them may be your neighborhood, and how open they are to crossdressers and such. Another one is your identity, because people may recognize you, so avoid this method if you want to keep your crossdressing habits a secret.
Well, I want to reinforce the idea that crossdressing is a personal experience. I understand that every person has a different condition. Yet as we’ve seen, there’s a wide variety of alternatives for activities in which crossdressers can take part. Such activities may suit almost every kind of crossdresser, as there are different levels of social engagement and effort. As long as you are relaxing and having fun, you can take part in any activity you like while dressed up as a woman, so don’t be afraid to enjoy your free time.
Written by Elise