Shopping with Confidence for Crossdressers

How are you doing today? Planning on expanding your wardrobe? Tired of the shopping experience we often get as crossdressers?

Worry no more because today, I’ve come up with my recommendations for safe shopping as a crossdresser.

Buying feminine clothing as a male can be nerve-wracking and, sometimes, a problem.

If you encounter a conservative store that cares more about what you are buying rather than making a new client, it can leave a mark on you.

Sometimes, some situations are beyond our control, but we have to stay positive and free.

In this post, you’ll find some tips to gain confidence to go out shopping as well as to avoid losing it after a bad experience.

Stop having a fear of buying at women’s stores with these words of reassurance.

Build up your self-esteem and enjoy the amazing experience of buying at the shop!

1. Fear of Buying In-Store

I’m pretty sure you all know the advantages of buying almost anything in person.

With the item on one, you can easily determine its quality and characteristics.

When it comes to clothing, this is even more relevant.

At the store, you can get a closer look at the item, and it will be harder for you to make a bad purchase.

Because of our fears of being out, I’m convinced that everyone here has restrained themselves from buying something from a “women’s” shop.

Usually, it is very hard for crossdressers to enjoy their femininity without any barriers.

That means a life shrouded in secrecy that is normal for those who haven’t come out.

Most times, that fear isn’t uncalled for, as people closest to us could be shocked if we come out.

But depending on where you live, strangers don’t normally react the same.

Most shop owners and sales assistants, if they are not familiarized with crossdressing, will find it interesting.

If they are, they will be capable of attending to all your needs.

Unless the owner or the sales assistant are bigots, they will try to make you comfortable while you shop, potentially earning a new customer.

Their salaries depend on the sales, and catering to all kinds of customers should be in their best interests and ours.

That said, if you are a kind and respectful client and ask for honest assistance, there’s a great chance you get some with a smile on your face.

Dealing with the Fear

Hopefully, you have come to terms with your crossdressing and come around to enjoy, free of guilt, your feminine side as well as your male one.

If you didn’t, these words may resonate within you.

Coming to terms with yourself is of vital importance. Loving ourselves the way we are enables us to do courageous things.

Like coming out to whoever you want or buying at a shop, not caring what people think.

We may not become the most self-confident person in the world, but this can be a good thing, too.

Keeping in balance your confidence and your humility is a good thing.

With your self-esteem up and simple safety measures, you can forget all about what some stranger thinks about your crossdressing or fashion sense.

By living freely, you lose fear and gain love. Love for yourself and others, caring for those close to you.

But what others think stops determining your actions, thoughts, and likes.

Allowing you to enjoy your life as you see fit.

Let’s see some tips to help you beat the initial reluctance of going to the shop for yourself.

Tips for Boosting Your Confidence

The tips below are primarily aimed at beginner crossdressers.

If you have been crossdressing for years, you might be more comfortable in situations like these.

But in case you don’t, you can find them useful too:

• Find someone to go with you: if you have come out to a friend or any female acquaintance, their company will be very reassuring. If they are okay with your crossdressing, it will probably be fun for them to go shopping with you.

• Start with some basic items: at first, it is best to start with things that are easy to purchase and carry. Basic make-up, panties, bras, hosiery, or small clothes. Leaving the store with a smaller bag can help you deal with your fears and anxiety. Besides, you can hide it in a case, backpack, or a bigger shopping bag.

• Know your measurements: no matter what you are buying, if you want to make it quick, you should know your measurements. This will make the trip easier, and you can even gain practice asking for help from a sales assistant. Knowing your size will keep the interactions flowing more naturally and will help you relax.

• Make lists when buying make-up to keep from wandering the aisle or asking to see many products. It is a very big and confusing world if you’re new to it. Read as many reviews online of the products you want and pre-select some options in case one is out of stock.

• Go out of town on a shopping trip: to lose the fear of meeting someone you know. You don’t have to go very far, just out of the zone of the people you know frequently. It can also help you go on a low day when there are not lots of people at the shops.

• Sales assistants don’t care: they are concerned about getting back home and making a commission from the sale. They probably will help you as best as they can.

• Mind your wallet: don’t binge and waste your salary. Plan how much you can afford to spend. Be patient; there will be more shopping trips in the future.

Experiencing shopping first-hand is one magical experience for every crossdresser.

You should not restrain yourself from doing so if you do it healthily.

Shopping is also a great exercise for losing fear and gaining confidence progressively.

You will find it easier each time and enjoy your time at the shops rather than traumatizing.

Hope you can all find this helpful.

I would love to hear about your shopping experiences in the comments below! See you soon!

Learn More：

In Person Shopping (with Confidence)

Written by Tina Munova.