BDSM Collars: A Crossdresser’s Guide to Style and Symbolism

Our partners would ask if we’d like a tour of the playroom. We always state a ‘bubbly’ yes. This is because we are always sure to find an exotic piece: the BDSM collar. This collar is the symbol of the interplay between dominance and submission.

The BDSM collar is the solution to a crossdresser’s style. Embrace the symbolism of submission, dominance, and consent. That way, we get to appreciate both the BDSM culture and crossdressing culture.

Keep reading to explore the vast BDSM collar options. BDSM Collars border on extreme dominance to cute submission. Thus, the collar is the sauce to this raunchy interplay.

Overview of Collars in BDSM Culture

A BDSM collar is a piece of jewelry with a hidden meaning. A BDSM collar can be a choker or a necklace. A key component to note is that we wear our BDSM collars in other areas of our body, such as the anklet or bracelet.

As a result, BDSM collars can also be worn in different areas of our bodies. In recent years, the BDSM collar was hallmarked by its thick black leather appearance.

This leather style includes the choker style, but with an O or large D style. To remove this choker, one has to unlock the lock code. And it could only be performed by the dominant party.

Today, our typical BDSM collar can include a traditional leather-made. It can also embrace our typical dainty pendant necklace or even a simple chain.

How BDSM collars can enhance both style and Identity

As Fashion Enhancement

BDSM collars enhance our fashion statement as crossdressers. For instance, a day collar can add a pop to our casual and classic outfits by helping us to blend in. This way, we are able to indulge in our BDSM collar fantasies without anyone lifting our cover. The goal is to ensure that our collar cowls our necks in a fashion sense.

As a Cultural Significance

Once we wear the BDSM collar, we are sure to express the BDSM culture. The BDSM culture originates in the 1900s. During this time, heterosexual kink culture would arise, giving rise to a host of fetishes. BDSM collars, thus, have a rich identity in our historical and cultural contexts.

Individual Preference and Taste

As others love the tinge of digital collars, we over here drool over permanent BDSM chains. BDSM chains open our eyes to the possibility of taste options. For instance, a sub may like the pain and submission role of being chained. When we express our BDSM collar preference and taste, we enhance both our style and Identity.

Symbolism in BDSM Collars

We keep our ducks in a row by knowing the symbolism in BDSM collars;

The Dominant

So, we have a BDSM collar. In this brief moment, someone has to unshackle it. Who is it going to be? We guessed it right. It is our dominant party, also called the DOM.

The Dom owns our BDSM collar, literally and hypothetically. This is because they have the power to loosen their grip around our necks.

Or, they have the power to strip us of our air supply, playfully so, with our BDSM power. As a result, once we see a BDSM collar, we know a dominant is in the throes, wielding the BDSM collar’s final say.

The Submissive

We use phrases like ‘I concede,’ or a bow of the head to relay a message of surrender sometimes. And during BDSM play, we are the submissive, also called (sub).

Submission in the BDSM collar refers to the wearer who gives control to the DOM. Remember, submission does not equate to weakness.

Consent

Without consent, we could unapologetically revoke the BDSM collar altogether. Consent means both dominant and submissive parties have the right to the word ‘No.’

The BDSM collar signifies consent because who wants to go to jail because of a little BDSM collar play? Not us.

6 Types of BDSM Collars

The following are examples of BDSM collars;

Consideration Collars

For commitment to us, the Dom, we grant a BDSM collar. It comes with its host of protection. Additionally, it is easy to take off. Anytime we want to take our relationship to the next stage, we grab our consideration BDSM collar.

Training Collars

Any sub may be taken aback by the many ways to use the BDSM collar. That is why we have the Training collar. They indicate that our sub is under training. If our sub qualifies, a ceremony or full-collar ownership follows suit.

Permanent Collars

The BDSM permanent collar is akin to a wedding ring. A commitment between a sub and a dom will lead to a permanent BDSM collar. Parties can wear them 24/7. They come with a secure lock, which only the Dom has the key to.

Unlocking our permanent collar is akin to breaching wedding vows. Worth noting is that not everyone wears their permanent BDSM collars all the time.

Day Collars

If we are into BDSM collars and play, and we want to be discreet about it, we go for day collars. These come in the form of jewelry, necklaces, or chokers. They take the ‘vanilla’ aesthetic. This makes it easy for us who want to blend in with the rest of the population.

Play Collars

If we are heading for a play party, then BDSM play collars are our go-to. Whenever we want to join the occasional BDSM play, we choose this. We love them only when we are playing a scene.

Protection Collars

A sub sometimes needs some time off the Dom. This is where the protection colors come into play. These keep a sub safe from the DOM, especially if there is no commitment. The dominant goal is to protect the sub from any harm. They are also temporary.

Digital Collars

In forums, chat rooms, and other BDSM spaces, the sub conveys the message of ownership. Thus, we wear marker symbols. This means we have been collared.

We use these to hallmark a long-term relationship between a sub and a Dom. Thus, in a group chat, we are out of limits when we use the digital collar.

Choosing the Right BDSM Collar as a crossdresser

Follow the following tips to choose the correct BDSM collar as a crossdresser;

BDSM Collar neck size

We want a comfortable and safe-fitting BDSM collar. As a result, we always take integral steps to measure our neck size.

Our Style and Preference

We are sure to note our style and preference when choosing the right BDSM collar. In this case, we can use the following collar styles.

Leather Collar

The dark allure of the leather collar is a preference for many BDSM enthusiasts. It comes with unmatched durability. Also, its myriad of styles, including D-rings, make it a highly sought-after option. Other embellishments, such as studs, spikes, and chains, make it a to-go.

Silicone Collar

For an easy-to-clean BDSM collar, we choose the silicone collar. They are hypoallergenic. They also come in various styles and colors.

Metal Collar

Envision the slave chains to understand the metal collar. It provides an edgy look during play sessions. We often choose stainless steel or titanium metal designs. These metal collars come with the added advantage of engravings.

Day Collar

If we want to be in stealth mode, we go for day collars. We wear them daily, and we can be incognito in public. One may mistake them for our everyday necklaces.

Material

We want to ensure that our collar is comfortable on the skin. If we are allergic to hypoallergenic, we choose safer options like silicone. We also ensure that our BDSM collar is easy to clean.

Styling our BDSM Collar as a Crossdresser

Style our BDSM collar with us as crossdressers in the following ways;

Go for High Fashion Furs and High Collars

For cold weather, dear Dom, grab the fur or faux coat. Something about the BDSM collared and the elegance of furs remains fashionably unmatched.

Go in all soft and fuzzy. Add the BDSM collar and rise to our glimmering presence as a crossdresser.

Try Bold, Big, and Chunky with Sweaters

As crossdressers, the chunky collars over dainty ones match well with oversized sweaters.

For an industrial feel, bold BDSM collars make us eye-catching. Additionally, we still manage to stay discreet.

BDSM Collars and Waist Belts

For an edgy twist, BDSM collars and waist belts are the perfect combination. The leather waist belt over a maxi skirt accentuates our curves.

The BDSM collar now draws attention to our neck. The aftermath is such a comfortable and fashion-forward combination for crossdressers.

Leather BDSM collars

We step into the timeless elegance of BDSM leather collars with pride. Leather makes a bold statement, which is our aura as crossdressers.

Be it leather, suede, or full-grip leather, these BDSM collars are a classic allure. Our Dominant especially has fun with this one.

How Collars enhance gender expression and Identity for crossdressers

BDSM collars help crossdressers in gender expression and gender identity;

The Collard Crossdresser

BDSM collars enhance our gender expression as they are a form of crossdressing. When we wear a BDSM choker, we step into our Identity and into our unique personhood. We adore how the collar feels to us as crossdressers.

A thrust into Femininity

A woman with a collar around her neck draws out the Femininity. More often than not, we wear day collars to express our Femininity. Collars are no different from our everyday necklaces. They adorn us in womanhood as crossdressers.

Personal Expression

When we wear BDSM collars, we jump straight into the world of personal expression. In this case, we are able to express our soft or hard personalities. This can occur either as a sub or a Dom, respectively.

For Self-Exploration

BDSM collars help us express ourselves in our truest sense. For instance, BDSM collars train in the sub-dom world. Later, we graduate to the permanent BDSM collar. This is a graceful evolution.

Conclusion

The BDSM collar is a beacon of submission and dominance. Play with these two energies by choosing from different BDSM collar options. These range from the training collar to the digital collar. As with any play, consent is the gasoline to our BDSM drive.

Hence, we strike a match to ensure our crossdressing styles match our BDSM collars. In the end, we reap the rewards with authenticity and self-expression. Hence, this is the ticket way to use the BDSM collar to unite our inner selves.